Monday, September 27, 2010

Monday All Over Again

Thanks to everyone for your advice about the landscaper.  I forgot to mention in my last post that when I came home and saw his truck parked in my driveway, he wasn't around.  I don't know where he was but he wasn't in his truck and I didn't see him in my yard. 

I was upset about him cutting my bushes down but had pretty much decided there wasn't anything I could do about it other than to just accept it.  And then when I went to volunteer last week and his mom kept going on and on about paying him or making him cookies or at least stopping by the house to say thank you, that really bothered me a lot.  Why should I be obligated to thank him?  He trespassed onto my property and cut my roses down when I wasn't home after I had specifically told him I wasn't going to worry about them until next year. 

I don't have his phone number and I don't know his last name to look it up so I decided to send him a card to say thanks and that if I need his services again, I'll give him a call. Hopefully that'll pacify his mother and he won't bother me again.

This is what my rosebushes look like now:
As always, please forgive the crappy quality.  My bushes used to be full and covered the height of the fence.

In better news, I'm excited that this afternoon I'll get to tour the campus at the university I'll be attending.  I've been told it should last anywhere from an hour to and hour and a half.  It's a pretty big school (113 acres) so there'll be lots to see.  I'm most interested in the math lab and the financial aid office.  Keeping my fingers crossed that my hip doesn't decide to give out in the middle. 

14 showed me some love:

jen said...

I think you did the right thing by mailing him a thank card.

Have fun on the tour:)

Smoochiefrog said...

Even though he cut them back quite a ways, they'll grow bigger and more beautiful next year. Pruning is wonderful for bushes.

When I first read the post, I saw math lab as meth lab. I obviously need more sleep.

The Daily Pip said...

Oh, sorry about your rose bushes! I hope you have a great tour of school! It is very exciting!

Your pal, Pip

Frankie Furter and Ernie said...

I think that a nice... butt FIRM note should solve the problem.
I would say that you prolly should have had a talk with the police... just in case this problem crops up again.

Kristen said...

Still feel so awful about your roses :( I am working on your cover letter this afternoon....

Enjoy your time at school!!! Happy Monday!

koko said...

Hope your campus tour will turn out well.

Licks, hero

Unknown said...

Sorry about the roses, I love mine too!

Have fun on the tour!!

The Life of Riley said...


I’m not sure what to think about your rose problem, apart from I would have liked to seen a photo of your roses covering the fence – but often things aren’t as they seem.

If you assume good for a minute, perhaps he really was trying to do you a favour (you posted in your blog about him being cute and doing things to help others without necessarily receiving payment), perhaps he’s lonely and was just trying to be friendly or do a good deed as he thought you couldn’t afford to pay someone to look after your roses this year (like you volunteer to do good with your spare time), perhaps his mum read your blog and found you thought he was cute (so is trying to get you two together by whatever means) and perhaps he just cares for plants enough to know your roses should grow better next year by being pruned – it’s just a pity you are on the wrong side of the world, as it is rose pruning time in the southern hemisphere where I live!!!

Trust your instincts about how you feel around him, and about if you want any further contact with him. Saying you don’t have his phone number is no reason, as if you wanted to you could get it from his mum, but you have no obligation to do anything, and if your impression of him has changed since the yard sale, then trust your instincts and avoid him.

However you can’t avoid his mum so when she raises the topic make it clear to her that you are not used to having people coming onto your property unasked, and you are still trying to understand why he did that. Keep repeating to his mum “that you don’t understand why he did what he did and you are trying to understand why” (whenever she mentions him) and ask her why she thinks he did it. And when she tells you a “why” ask again for the “why” of that part of the answer (e.g. if it is to do a nice thing for you - then "why" does he want to do a nice thing for you), and again for each part of her replys (especially when she says you should do something) until you understand. Whenever she mentions it ask why he did it again and again – because eventually she will see your side of things and maybe you will find out his – otherwise it is something that will continue to bother you each time you look at your roses or try to avoid volunteering beside her.

Oops – this was a very long answer but my mum understands what it is like to have someone come onto her property and cut things down, as an old neighbour of cut down our boundary hedge by half its height while she was away on holiday (so she lost all her privacy and all she saw from her bedroom or living room was him standing at the windows of his house!). She was really mad about it, and it took her a very long time to understand his reasons and to sort things out so he didn’t do it again!


the booker man said...

miss sprinkles,
holy cow, he really did cut your roses back, didn't he?! :( i hope they grow back very speedy gonzales like. i agree with mr. frankie -- a nice but FIRM note for sures!!
enjoy your campus tour today! i can't wait to hear about everythingie you get to see! oh, and i really hope your hip won't give you any trouble from the tour walkies.

the booker man

Melissa said...

I think the card was a nice gesture and should be sufficient for this circumstance.

Hope the tour went well and that your hip wasn't bothering you too much!

Unknown said...

Hi Sprinkles - sorry we haven't come to visit for a while and it looks like we missed out on some big news! You're going to university! How exciting! Good luck with the tour.

Honey the Great Dane
ps. am so sorry that the nasty man cut down your roses!

Zuzana said...

I am so sorry about your roses, but if it is any consolation, the will come back stronger than before, maybe first ext year but nevertheless. I cut my rose down to almost ground level this spring, as it always gets attacked by some sort of bug. So I decided to cut it, what ever may happen. The rose is even now in full bloom, standing taller than me and is so strong, I have never seen anything like that.;)) So they are tough and they actually need pruning.
Enjoy your campus visit.;)
Thank you for your kind comment at my place; yes I am going trough something right now that makes me sad and upset, but I feel it is to private to discuss openly here (and you do not list email;) - but thank you for your very kind words, they mean a lot.;)
Have lovely day,

Martine said...

Have fun at your tour! I am excited for you!!!!

I just read the background on your rose bush situation. HOW TOTALLY frustrating....

Doris Sturm said...

I have mixed feelings about this situation with the gardener, but time will your saying "thank you" it implies your obligation for payment later down the road...but, let's not anticipate any problems!

Let's focuss on positivie things like your school and touring campus. I wish you all the best and a scuccessful year ahead. You deserve it!

With Love,
Doris and Gizzy!

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